Compassionate Connection Begins with Self

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Abiding compassion is not so much about alleviating the suffering of others, but rather, be-ing an embodiment that honours the kinship of all beings.

When I feel satiated, it becomes “natural” not to wish to take more food. It is the same with human connection, i.e. when my needs are met, it becomes “natural” to say “my cup is full and I have no need for more love (at this moment)” … or safety, or belonging, or expression … basically, fundamental human needs. In other words, when my needs are met, it becomes easier for me to willingly meet the needs of another.

How, you may wonder, is this relevant to compassionate connection?

I am using the word CONNECTION here to mean the condition of:

• Recognising (not interpreting) what is most alive in the other person at that moment in time; and
• Being willing to accept that energy as it is, without judgment or wishing it to be anything else; and
• Whilst at all times, being aware of what is alive in myself at that same moment in time.

Therefore, when connected in this way with another human being, COMPASSION may be understood as:

• The unadulterated desire for this person to be “happy”, “content”, “fulfilled”; and
• Being willing to do…