In the context of a compassionate conversation, what does this even mean? Well, if rhetorical questions function to make a point in the form of a question, whilst a socratic questions aim to expand thinking, and open-ended questions serve the purpose of co-discovering more, then ego-less questions may be understood…

Slowing down the present moment may be the fastest way to get to the heart of the matter. Because it is in slowing down that each moment reveals its depth and richness, and chronos (quantified time as measured linearly in units) makes way for kairos (qualitative time as in both…

Dear reader, I’m glad your curiosity has led you here. It is my hope to share a bit of how I came to embrace compassion. …

False emotions are essentially words that are trying very hard to hide their judgmental sting, either of others or of self. It’s like a furry jacket on an icy cold winter night that promises warmth, but when you put it on, you discover that it is lined with thorns 😓…

During a conversation when someone is sharing their suffering with you, and you are heartfully listening, how do you truly signal that you’re fully present to, and with, them? Being fully present with another human being in their suffering is not the same as “I get it”, because I don’t…

Heartful listening is an active and embodied process of sustaining focused attention on the speaker, in the absence of one’s ego. Active because I am filtering out distractions (i) from the immediate external environment (including my phone), and (ii) arising internally from my own biases and filters. Embodied because I…

Compassion is a conscious willingness to 1) endure with another their suffering, and then 2) to alleviate the suffering by using the most appropriate means possible, and 3) in ways that preserve the dignity of all involved (meaning you need to have an ethical position about how to be in…

Step 1: This question makes sense only if you genuinely believe that you are acting with compassion in response to your perception of Alex’s suffering. Which means the first thing to do then is to check-in with yourself: #1: Is Alex reacting because you are being “fake compassionate”? If yes…

Being compassionate is equally about giving, as it is about receiving. While many of us are willing to commit to working on ourselves so we can be more compassionate to others (be careful thought of the 5 Fake Compassion), receiving compassion from others and/or ourselves usually triggers an instinctive resistance…